Welcome to our weekly advice column, courtesy of Grace: She’s the big sister who shares her own mistakes so you can avoid making them, the coworker who builds you up to ask for the raise you deserve, and the friend who is always happy to listen.
We all need someone like Grace in our corner. Submit your own questions here.
Dear Grace,
When I was younger, I was a little chubby, but I didn’t mind having curves. Since having kids, my body isn’t the same. My weight just keeps going up. Everyone is getting skinny now and I keep seeing ads for weight loss shots like Ozempic, but I’m scared to take it. Do you think it’s safe? I do want to lose weight. I can honestly say I love myself, but not my body. What do you think? What’s the best way to lose weight?
— Can’t Stop Dieting in PA
Dear Can’t Stop Dieting,
There is so much to unpack in your question, but let me just say that you’re not alone. I think that just about every woman I know has felt what you just described–feeling unhappy with the number on the scale or uncomfortable in our skin. It’s no coincidence, Can’t Stop. Companies in the diet, exercise, drug, and growing alternative health industries make gobs of money (especially this time of year) by telling us that our bodies are wrong and that their product could “fix” them.
That said, we all deserve to have a happy, healthy relationship with our bodies, and I have struggled with some of the same feelings you’re describing. I don’t always have the answers, Can’t Stop, and with so many people out there claiming to be experts on healthy eating and dieting, I decided to reach out to a registered dietician to get advice we can all trust. Here’s what she said…